I am no longer available for…
If you no longer want to hold an identity. Then stop acting like that identity.
Examples…
If you are fed up with being everyone’s doormat, then stop acting like a doormat. Stop allowing others to stomp on you and dump their dirt on you. No longer be there on the front porch for them to do so. No longer be available, easy to reach, listening, free, or responsive to that dirt dumping.
If you’re not laying on the front porch ready and willing to take the dirt, then they cannot use you as their doormat.
Decide you are no longer be available for it.
If you no longer want to be the maid, then stop acting like the maid. Stop picking up after everyone. Stop excessively cleaning and responding to the messes. If you repeat behaviors and actions and they become a pattern, then you’ve trained yourself and others to expect that pattern. (And if messes drive you nuts, then find your own space that’s just for you to go to—Your own place that you keep clean and can sit and enjoy the cleanliness in)
Decide you are no longer be available for it.
If you no longer wish to be taken for granted, then stop being so available. Stop dropping everything to answer the call, respond to the email, be there hanging out, just waiting on standby. Respect your time and your energy. Focus on your desires. Do your thing. And choose when you are free and who, where, what and how you allocate your precious time and energy to.
Decide you are no longer be available for it.
If you no longer wish to be broke, then stop acting broke. Raise your expectations of being supported by money. Expect nothing less than being fully supported, taken care of, and having your desired turn into your new reality. Raise your threshold from “just enough to get by” to overflow, excess and more than enough.
Decide you are no longer be available for it.
If you no longer want to be lonely, then stop acting like a lonely person. Decide the types of relationships that you desire. Ask for the guidance, and then do your part. Actively participate in co-creating the friendships, romance, business partnerships, mentorships, etc. that you are seeking. Be open and available to them. Have the courage to step outside of your comfort zone, to go to new places, to be in new environments and in new energies. Say YES to opportunity. Extrovert or Introvert, let the social butterfly within you flutter. Trust yourself to know when you need your alone time. Trust yourself that will you honor your “ME time”. You always know exactly what to do. You always make the right decision.
Decide you are no longer be available for it.
If you no longer want to hold onto an identity, then decide you are no longer available for it.
Choose again.
-Jana Corinne